Vacation - mini rant

[Vallikat]

I want to preface this by saying that I am very happy that my parents have a place at the beach where I can take what is largely a free vacation. I am blessed. I am thankful for that. Truly.

However...

Tomorrow I leave for my week at the beach with my son and boyfriend. My parents will be coming down at the same time and staying until Tuesday. She originally told me they'd get out of my hair Monday morning. Now, they're bringing my grandmother and thought it would be best to stay until Tuesday. They are returning Thursday night and staying through Sunday. So that leaves Wednesday as the only completely parent free day of my vacation. That's it. Now, to just let you know why this is getting under my skin. There are 2 reasons. 1) I live with my parents so part of the wonderful part of having a vacation is the getting away from them part. 2) My mom is the queen of all control freaks. This morning she started talking to me about the menu. ITS MY VACATION!!! I DON'T GIVE A FLYING F*CK ABOUT THE MENU!! I MIGHT JUST DRINK MY WAY THROUGH THE NEXT 7 DAYS THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!!

Ok, just really needed to get that out of my system. I swear I'm going to have a relaxing time if it kills me.

That's all...oh and if I wasn't clear, after tonight you won't see me around except the occasional forum check until sometime on the 20th.

Have a great week!!

[Boinky]

Steal their keys to the beach house, get down there first, lock the doors and refuse to let them in

[Lauri]

Eeeee.

Yeah, I can totally relate to the parents thing. But, I do hope you have a good time, either way!

*hugs*

[Ashval]

Hope you manage to have a great time, Valli! *hugs*

[Vallikat]

I'm getting ready to go here shortly. Just wanted to say that I have resigned myself to having a good time. It's my vacation. If my folks get on my nerves too much, we can just hit the beach or go to the water park or do something else without them.

I'm going to have a great time and I'm not going to miss you saps for one second!!!!


(ok...not true on not missing you guys...no stream = boo )

*huggles of muffiny goodness*!!!!
Valli

[Myz_Lilith]

Hey, the "drink my way through the next seven days" option sounds a good plan to me

Have fun!

[Aameul]

Try to spend less time at home with your parents. I lived at home with my parents while I was unemployed for about a year and a half, and it was hell. Things got drastically better when I got a job, because it was 10 less hours a day we were in each others' way. I still lived at home for another almost 2 years after I got my job and I really didn't mind it so much.

You owe it to yourself and your family to normalize your relationship with your parents before you lose one of them. I don't know what I would do with myself if I had still been as resentful and selfish as I was for a while with my parents before my dad got sick.

[Vallikat]

Aam, thanks for that. Ever since writing it I've been waiting for someone to respond that I should stop being so selfish and start appreciating that I have my parents. I realize fully that I am being selfish. But I've been living with them more than 3 years. Selfishness is the only thing that keeps me sane. But at the same time I know that I don't want the resentment to build to a point where I have no relationship with them at all. Thus, having now found gainful employment, I am dilligently looking for a new place to live. I love my folks. They just make me nuts at times.

On another note, I'm having a great time on my vacation, parents or not.