what would you do?

[Dragonfruit]

OK, imagine you're a loser, a complete loser, you dont have any friends but the one that are in your online games. you go on a 7 day march to the state capital to protest. while at one of the resting spots, you meet a girl named melisa. she likes talking to you, she has ADHD, and takes pills for it and is somewhat hot (you happen to never of had a girlfriend before so you are pretty horny with all the hormones going through you.) you enjoy talking to her.
another girl comes up, uglier than melisa and also wierder, less enthusiastic. her name is samantha, she also starts to talk to you where you sat down to rest. the two girls start to interupt eachother while talking to me. they dont talk to eachother. they're interested in you, (they're the same age, and also around your age)
you start marching and they march on both of your sides, melisa starts to act like she wants physical contact with you. samantha doesnt show that type of interest in you.
at the church you are staying the night at tonight, you sit down in the grassy courtyard thinking about sleep. melisa and samantha never gave you any room and they wont stop now, neither of them can stay at the church tonight and enjoy being with you somehow (you loser). somehow the conversation between us changes to dancing, then I dance with them. (neither of them want to dance with eachother, they want me) after we finish dancing, they both show more interest in me, we all sit down on the grass again. melisa is somewhat leaning on you, samantha sits close to you. melisa kisses you on the cheek, in the middle of a someone distracted crowd. after some silence, samantha says, "stop forcing yourself on him" she doesnt move
our conversation goes on and melisa kisses me on the lips. (being a guy thats never had a girl want you in your lifetime let alone sit next to you, you are hard as hell, you are only wearing boxers and if anyone is looking at you, you could get embaresed, you lay your arms on your pants.)
the girls have to go now and they both give me a hug and a kiss (cept samantha) and leave. wow i think.
next day we march and they are both marching on my sides again only melisa is holding hands with me while i march or holding my side. during meetings she lays on you with her head on your shoulder nudging you and complementing you. she never gave you any room to yourself so far and now samantha says her sister doesnt think its cool for me to "pimp" them and wants me to choose one. (she shares the feeling)(I think im innocent, i didnt do anything, so far i feel like i've been in a rapid that is shallow with a rocky bottom hurting me as a go along, but the river is pretty.) I choose melisa because she seems cooler to me, and seriously, i dont know these girls, dont go to their school, and besides, i've never got any like this so far.
melisa has to go home for some reason, her mom made her.
at the next church, samantha sleeps in the room i sleep in. i submit to a game of truth or dare with some of the other guys in the room.
"you have to kiss for at least 10 seconds, actully kiss not any cheek on smooch on the lip shit, you hav tah massage eachothers tounges." says marry poppins. she is a girl that looks like she's 19 or something and she's already confessed in a game of ten fingers that she isnt a virgin and committed to many different sexual activities (ghetto girl, n' shes white). I have to kiss samantha and i "chose" melisa but dont want to be a pussy and back out on my dare.
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next day everyone thinks i "cheated" on melisa. the fact is, she dont care as long as she knows it was a dare. on this day of the march, there is a new factor. the martinez family. they have the same last name as me, but there are more 13-8 yr old badass anoying motherf*^king cousings than there are family members in my family. they are harrasing me and melisa, saying that i kissed samantha over and over, my friends were calling me a pimp yesterday and now the cousins start chanting, you aint a pimp, you a wimp!. melisa isnt opposed to me being a pimp. we walk to the end of the line.
here we are at the rest stop, me, samantha and melisa try to get away from the maritnez cousins and find a nice place in the shade under a tree on the grass. people and us sandwiches, they hand me one but i say no (im vegetarian, the ones that dont have meat on em have mayo on em, i dont like mayo either.) they dont care about eating mayonase. samantha goes to the bathroom thats about 50 yards away. me and samantha sit away from every other clique in the march. no one is looking, melisas head that is in my lap looks up at me with a smile and with her hand brings my head down as her tounge pervases my mouth.
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"you taste like mayo!"
"hehee" she replies
she lays on me until the cousins stalk me over here, then we leave because they are making fun of her because she was laying on me. they dont follow us because they lost us. its just us behind the a truck in the parking lot, no one knows where we are. we converce with eachother as I stroke her head on my lap. she pulls my head down on hers and we kiss. the kiss lasts for a while and she kisses me again. she moves my hand onto her breast. and lays there for a while on me.
we start to march again, and she smiles all the way untill we get harrased by the martinez cousins again. she then starts to act suicidalbecause of their negativity. the cousins are very mean to me and her, so is her mom, and her brother is very violent towards her, her brother also spys on her while she dresses, and walks in on her when she is using the bathroom. she has no friends at school (or so she says, i dont belive her) she was molested by her uncle and her english teacher has a crush on her. he has sent loveletters to her and is only 6 years older than her (shes 16, im 14) she told me all of this. (samantha walks next to us as we hold hands, she still respects me somehow, but its not like I tryed to hurt her in any way. i did everything she told me to do.) I dont know why they like me so much, im poor, what girl ever hung on to a guy for their looks even when they dont do anything special.
that night melisa left saying she'd be back thursday to spend the night at the buddhist church and she would give me her number when we got to the capital on friday.
meanwhile the group is having problems staying together and some rasist little kids start discriminating on me because im white, other kids are hating on me, and harrasing me. samantha starts to cry (i dunno why she was happy from all the time i was with her today.) the martinez family starts to act like a gang against me. and i cant speak my mind to one of them or they all talk back. I leave the march then, to get away from everything that happened on the march and here i am now.

What Would You Do?

[Nexeus]

We've all been in situation like these, do we go or do we stay. DO we enjoy what we have or do we leav eit and not do a damn thing... personally I would have faced adversity man... if I'm there, and I'm willing to help others... and in this case two girls whom want you, I would have stayed and at least began to get to know them better so that you can not only be their friends but don't feel like later you turned your back on them.

[Darth Bootay]

What *I* would do is not neccessarily the course of action a 14 year old would do. Horny or not, hot or not, no girl or guy is worth the kind of drama you're describing that early into knowing them. Bear in mind, as bad as what you've describes sounds, it will only get worse. Fresh into meeting new people, there's this whole "on the best behavior" thing that people almost always induge themselves in, thinking that if they can make someone like their facade, they will get to keep them when the facade slips and the real behavior starts.

Yes, I understand you're young and in hormone hell. But you have to ask yourself this question: "If it's this bad now, and it's only going to get worse, how much do I REALLY want to cop that feel?"

Just an experienced perspective, which I'm sure will be ignored and very likely flamed to boot.

[Boinky]

Sounds like some wise words given so far. I'll try and add to the wisdom if I can...

Any girl or girls who seem that eager for contact with you that quickly while barely knowing you should set off warnings. No truly meaningful relationship is likely to come from beginnings such as that. So it's up to you to decide what you might really want from the experience. But just beware it may not become what you wanted.

[Riviques]

well, being a guy with no luck in relationships (some of ya know what im talking about) all i can say is to be carefull. dont fall in head over heals. theres alot of drama going on here, i know first hand what its like.

remember my man, true love waits.

[Jassel]

All good advice to follow.. I just have one reminder for you to have...


You are 14, hon.. Whatever you do decide to do with your situations, try and think how it will effect you in 5 years, and go from there. Just remember you are young and have a lot of time to make up for mistakes and a lot of time to learn.

Boinky is right.. any guy or girl that is like that in the beginning should send up some flags, because they could very liekyl just cause bad news.

And if they don't go to yor school, or even live in your area, than just be their friend.. kiss a little if you want, and keep in touch after the march is done through e-mail or snail-mail. You have many years and many opps for relationships ahead of you. Ignore the cousins, just shrug them off, and they'll grow old of it before long. And my advice, from personal experiance, the longer you wait to make the next move the better it is when it happens with any relationship.


All in all.. the main thing to think about is.. You are only 14.. chances are you may just very well forget about this in 5 or so years... So take it easy and just have some fun.. Be you, and don't change you to try and impress either of them.

*hugs* good luck to you, hon.

[Tacz]

*Free 15 minutes, whee!*

I agree with these fine people over here. Its up to you. I believe that if they came on to you that fast, that a long term relationship would be hard/futile to maintain. My girlfriend and I have been good friends since November, and are only now going out, because our relationship has reached that point. We know eachother, and want to be together. If you think you can make this work out, and for that matter, its really what you want, then go for it. Though I think the fact that they came onto you that quickly is too big of a warning sign to be ignored. If you're going to take it to the next level, it will be a challenge, but I find its best to maintain a good friendship with people than to take it to the next level. Dont let your natural tendencies take you where you dont want to go. You have your future ahead of you, so dont go getting a serious case of depression just yet.

Save that for the SATs

[Dragonfruit]

all great advice, but not enough info... now I left them both in good feelings and figured out why melisa was how she was. I told melisa i didnt like her that way and samantha forgave me and wasnt so bitchy towards me (she really is a good person). Melisa's younger brother is a genuis (officialy - he has a higher IQ than the smartest person on the world). he likes me (no, hes not gay). he explained to me that his sister has ADHD, is immature (has the body of a 16 yr old, and the brain of a 10 yr old), she is biologicly over-emotional (the best way to describe it, I cant remember the name of the condition), forgets things from the seizures she has, and is boy crazy, (he somehow described that in a scientific way, her brother is amazing, hes 13, and can back up everything he says.) so basicly she's a boy trap. she use to have 4 boyfriends at the same time he said. samantha is a natural human being. they're both great people though. I will never have to see them again now that the trips over. thanks for the help yall!

[Jassel]

Anytime hon.. that's what friends are for

Glad everything worked out for you *hugs*

[Switchfront]

I've had so much experience in drama it's crazy.... but I wish I could tell you one way or another to go on this but this really is you're opinion... the posts before do have a very good point.. like if it's this much drama in theb begining.. what's it gonna be like later? U also have to throw up a yellow flag for the quick moves by them already...