Oddly Enough, I'd Dump Her

[Tarryk]

This right here is exactly why I avoid relationships. There seems to be some sort of chemical imbalance that shuts off common sense when a "loving" relationship is established.

To avoid the clicky, here it is in a nutshell: Dude in London buys his g/f a $12k engagement ring. He hides the ring in a helium balloon, with intent to "pop" the question to his girl.

He screws up and lets go of the balloon, and watches his ring disappear into the sky. He attempts to track it from his car, but fails, ring = gone.

The punchline: he's $12k in the hole from it, and his girlfriend won't even talk to him until he finds it or gets a new ring, so he's desperately hoping someone finds it and brings it back to him.

Um, dude? Simple fact derived from simple information: She's an asshat. Dump her and walk on, man.

[Narcotic]

wow she's fairly materialistic isn't she......i would dump her too

[Tarryk]

What possesses people to be that daft? Maybe he's desperate and knows that he couldn't find "love" anywhere else. Or maybe he's so totally "in love" (read: blindly infatuated) with this girl that he doesn't even realize how materialistic she's being.

Either way, it boggles the mind. If I ever met this dude, there would be little to no pity. If anything, I'd have to smack him.

[Rehab]

some people want it to be amazingly special and unique so they decide wats the craziest thing i could do to shock her. But props to the guy for tryin a great idea shame the girls a complete toss pot seeing the effort hes gone through.

But to take the piss i would just get one of those gummy rings if she did tht lol

[Narcotic]

gummy rings ftw!!!!

[Tastyvixen]

Or, if she wants a really big rock there is always the "Ring Pop"

That ring is SO gone. If the balloon didn't pop and the ring scatter who knows were, then it came down to earth and was mistaken as trash and in the garbage it goes.

It was a cool idea but I'd definitely not be doing that to a ring that expensive. For that matter I wouldn't even want a ring that expensive. I'd be afraid to wear it and it would end up spending its life in my jewelry box.

And yeah, that woman doesn't deserve him.

[Traanse]

I'd be pissed at him for spending 12,000 bloody dollars on a stupid ring. And then putting it in a balloon. I'd still talk to him and marry him, but that man would never be trusted with money again.

[Tarryk]

I'd be pissed at him for spending 12,000 bloody dollars on a stupid ring. And then putting it in a balloon. I'd still talk to him and marry him, but that man would never be trusted with money again.

LOL okay now that's an understandable anger. "Yes I'll marry you. But honey? *THWAP* You're an idiot." bwahahaha

[Narcotic]

seriously, i'd freak out on a ring over 500$, hell no, 12k is way too much

[ivanelme]

What happened to "It's the thought that counts"?

[Acushla]

What happened to "It's the thought that counts"?

*laughs* Sorry, that has always struck me as a 'polite fiction', something you say when someone gets you something you have no use/need for but it is someone that for some reason you cannot offend by telling them.

btw, even if I HAD 12k I could afford to spend on a ring, I would never spend it on an engagement ring, now ...... the wedding ring maybe *laughs* but not the Engagement.

[Shigy]

I've always liked the line its the thought that counts. I mean it only streches so far but if someone made an effort at least they tried.

[Tastyvixen]

btw, even if I HAD 12k I could afford to spend on a ring, I would never spend it on an engagement ring, now ...... the wedding ring maybe *laughs* but not the Engagement.

I know, unless your a billionaire thats just a stupid amount to pay for a ring. Me, I'm all for getting a less expensive ring and having a smallish wedding. Then spending all the cash we saved on a really nice honeymoon.

[Acushla]

btw, even if I HAD 12k I could afford to spend on a ring, I would never spend it on an engagement ring, now ...... the wedding ring maybe *laughs* but not the Engagement.

I know, unless your a billionaire thats just a stupid amount to pay for a ring. Me, I'm all for getting a less expensive ring and having a smallish wedding. Then spending all the cash we saved on a really nice honeymoon.

*nods* good point

[Tarryk]

I have to say, I don't think I could spend that much on ANY ring even if I was a billionaire. Just the thought of spending what I once made in a year on something that serves absolutely no purpose beyond it's root symbolism makes my brain hurt.

[Traanse]

Particularly considering that it will probably get lost down a sink drain or similar. Or end up sitting in a drawer so that it doesn't get lost, like my parents' do. I'm not sure I've ever actually seen my mother wear hers, and it's gorgeous.

.....oh. my. god. >.> Evil idea just entered my head. (And NO I'm not thinking about stealing it!)

[Culann]

I have to say, I don't think I could spend that much on ANY ring even if I was a billionaire. Just the thought of spending what I once made in a year on something that serves absolutely no purpose beyond it's root symbolism makes my brain hurt.

Well..I'm gonna play Devil's Advocate here..cause I can understand why the guy did it...going to give you folks a alternative point of view...

I think..for most part..in most if not all guys there's the inherent drive/feeling to be protective/caring about the feminine sex. And while that sounds suspiciously chavunist it's really not. The intelligent guy will quickly realize that the female is completely capable of anything, completely independent, and extremely good at being so.

Yet it's like the guy said in Multiplicity. " You want to be independent, but you need to be taken care of a little." And in that, the feminine gender is independent, but perhaps likes it when the male half of the species goes out of their way to do something nice for them.

From that, we can look at the fact that in this case, this guy was trying very hard to do something nice for his girlfriend, and wanted to do something a lil out of the ordinary to add a bit of extra excitement to a already exciting situation, the proposal of a wedding.

I say wedding instead of marriage because there's no religion on earth that can really say, "You're now married." What they CAN say however, is that these two people are married..but they can say it to everyone else. This is the foundation of a wedding, in my own opinion. It's a public declaration of what two people knew already, but just wanted the world to know. (this includes in some cases, clueing in our government)

In short..no holy individual of any religion can do more than make the public ceremony public...it's the two in question that really determine if there's a interest in marriage. And quite frankly...when two people decide..in my book they've BEEN married well before the wedding ever occurs.

So anyway...what's all this have to do with the guy & the 12K ring?

It's the guy wanting to do something nice for the female..it's a associative twist that's part of that public declaration of marriage. He spent 12K on a ring for his girlfriend so that not only would she know that he went to great effort and high expense to get her that ring, but so would anyone else who saw it, and she perhaps told the price of. Again, this is not a issue of flaunting, it's a matter of compassion and love. In the giving of this item he wants her especially, and everyone to know he's willing to go that far because of just how much her loves the gal. It's similar in concept to when you hear someone say, "If it were anyone else asking, I'd say no. But for you..."

In short form..this guy is willing to either work out 12K worth of funds because she means enough to him to go to that sort of effort, or conversely go into debt that much for the same reasons. It's just his way of conveying, in a materialistic form, the depth of the love he has for this gal.

That said, love and logic do not ever mix. I sort of learned this the hard way, and in the case of this guy, it may be that his love is misplaced if this gal is saying these things to him. In my own humble opinion she should be more understanding of the situation, of his intents and desires, as opposed as to being as seemingly indifferent and materialistic as she is.

But there ya go..

[Jugsmalone]

Well, if you are going to spend it the engagement ring is where too spend it that you get back if things go wrong :: however if you marry the umm bitch she gets to keep the wedding ring forever. This one is certainly a Bitch, money doesn't make for happiness nor does expensive things....it is giving that brings pleasure and commitment that brings happiness. tho I do know some that say to get married would mean you should be committed ...

[Oddysee]

Meh, I get the sentiment that this is one ludicrously f'ed up broad... And that the bloke should probably have debated this a bit first with a five year old to see if the kid could spot any glaring flaws in this plan such as "what happens if you let go?" but all that aside...

What we're discussing is human nature.

If we have nothing, we go out of our way to give something a bit beyond our stature, to suiter our chosen mate (yes... we're talking animal kingdom here, cus in this particular regard... That's what we're doin).

We flaunt, because on a primitive drive, it shows our stature.
Yes, love is one thing, materialistic needs is another. The whole "undying true love" is nice and all... But truth be told, I don't believe for one second, that that's the only factor.

If presented with two choices:
A mate with a perfect sense of humour, caring, sweet and compassionate, but who's economic and social stature will never rise beyond bottom feeder.

And a decent person, not without his or her problems, but not without good sides too, but with a financially secure future, and a prospect of moving on up... every single bit of research in the area I've ever come across shows, that we choose option number 2, pretty much every time.

Sure the are exceptions, but we're a species.
Things like "Can we care for our kids. Can I lead the life I want. Will I lack anything. Do I have the freedom to enjoy life, or must I slave away to make ends meet?" are all important questions we ask ourselves before settling down...

Ultimately, we live our OWN life. We just choose to live it with someone. So if the guy has 12K to blow on a ring. Then yes, odds are we're talking about an extreme, where mr money, met misses golddigger, but if we disregard the extremes in it... Him spending the money isn't the issue at hand.

If none of us had to ever worry about money... We'd not get a mere expensive ring. It proves nothing. We'd get something rare to prove, that this occassion is special.

If we had a bit of money, but not endless supplies, we'd get an expensive one.

If we had no money, we'd try to find the nicest one we could afford.

On a scale of things, they're all the same. The scale simply encompasses a wider range of possibilities, the further up the "rich bastard" ladder you move.

If a millionaire bought a 50$ ring for his wedding.. I doubt his missus would be pleased. When it comes to marriage, we have this predefined "princess story" dream, with a big white monstrocity of a wedding and all that.

That one day when you're the queen... Or what ever. Most guys would rather have it over with, but I suspect it's cus that day has nothing to do with us, and we cant play along.
It's her day. (mostly) so if she got a 50$ ring, when he has millions. He's not taking this "I want to feel special" very seriously, now is he...

Yes. The thought counts. But being thoughtless sadly also does, and is often much worse.


Rant aside, since I don't have that kind of money, I cant relate to the state of mind, nor can I deny I'd be the same if gold fell out my arse... But while it doesn't, yeh... Dump the bitch. Anyone that materialistic isn't worth your time anyway...

Tho if I ever become a billionaire, I'll get back to you and tell you if I see things differently then... There must be a reason why they're all like that


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[Zooz]

That is completely retarded.

Helium?

If it was air it would just have fallen down...