
Posted:
Wed May 28, 2003 6:10 am
by Otori
Depends....is she soli, nano, or opi?!?! Keep your head on straight man!! Remember the important things!


Posted:
Wed May 28, 2003 7:57 am
by Tir_McDohl
Even though I personally gave up relationships(well, TRYING to give up really), I think I can provide hindsight on your situation to a degree. We all know that's 20/20, so I'm going to be right. You know it, I know it, the Rubi-ka people know it.
Leaving potential behind without attempting it SUCKS. However, so does entering in and either a) being rejected, or b) losing it after a short time. That said, it becomes a choice of which is worse, or which would be easier to live with. I've experienced both(though, not rejected yet, seeing how I'm God's gift to women and that's pretty much impossible), and I can safely say that I've gotten over losing it. Sure it was great to have, and it really messed me up when I lost it, but I don't think about it on a daily basis. As corny as it is however, what DOES enter my mind quite often is the "what if" that I left unexplored.
So, in my case at least, I'd have traded quite a bit in exchange for that "what if" to be answered, even if it didn't last.
Then again, what do I know; I play mmorpgs every waking moment.
...holy crap, this post was WAY too personal and serious...time to mess it up.
Ever see a purple-assed babboon running down the street at Mach 5 while screaming obsceneties then suddenly burst into flame? ...want to?
Ok, now it's a little back to my usual level.

Posted:
Wed May 28, 2003 8:08 pm
by Aameul
What-ifs are a total b*tch. I've been rejected - it's not that big of a deal. You get over it pretty quickly, because in the course of the rejection, you generally see what it is that wouldn't work between you and the person rejecting you. What if's suck because the person gets built up as the best thing since sliced bread, especially if (like in your case) you move away and never see her again.
As is usually the case, some old english d00d says it better than I can manage:
I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.
- Lord Alfred Tennyson, 'In Memoriam:21', 1850

Posted:
Thu May 29, 2003 12:00 am
by Lauri
Try. Attempt. Give it a go.
Short and sweet... as several have already mentioned: What if's suck. To think - spending years just wondering... "What if... it worked? What if... I'd be really happy with 'her'?"
SIGH

Posted:
Thu May 29, 2003 12:23 am
by Katieblu
if you will always wonder what might have been, go for it!


Posted:
Thu May 29, 2003 1:52 am
by Altered
I'll agree with what the others have said...go for it.
Which would hurt the most....being rejected or a life long regret that you never at least tried?